Tuesday, November 8, 2011

Correction to Naysayers Post

I realized in reading the comments to the Don't listen to the Naysayers post that I left off the most important part!

Once I developed the honesty and integrity to always eat the way I eat now and not accept the occasional treat or bite from someone's plate, or say okay, just this once, life changed. Once I accepted I was the one who was ENABLING OTHERS to keep asking me, because I  sometimes did accept just one bite, taste, or slice, even after saying no.  ONCE  I CHANGED MY BEHAVIOR, the behavior of others also changed.

Having the willingness and honesty to always stick with my food plan no matter what, led others to understand that it is not a fad. People respect the integrity. Now, if asked, I give a polite no thank you. If someone persists I smile and pray for them. As long as I do what I need to do, I need not control what they do and what they do will not control me. 



Princess Dieter aka Mir said...

Yes, they do. I said "No, thank you" and explained why when they asked and they understand this is HOW I eat. Period. And now it's just taken for granted that I choose not to have A, B, C, and will happily eat X, Y, Z. Guess what I get offered now: X, Y, Z. :D

We can enable them NOT to support us or enable them TO support us. I think some of us like the "out", the excuse of saying, "Well, I didn't want to offend" or "Well, it was a special occasion and I was offered...." When we stop using those outs, stop making people the scapegoats when WE are the ones looking for the loophole, we're much stronger and better off.

E. Jane said...

Thanks for sharing your response to handling temptations. I think it is easier to blame others than to take responsibility for our own actions. Great insight!

Maren said...

I think that's a great point! My mother in law is all about offering me stuff I can't eat ... and it's hard saying no to a woman like her. ;) I'm going to have to find a way, or else Christmas will be rough!

Jane Cartelli said...

Great comments. Thank you!

Maren: hug her and tell her how much you appreciate her and keep saying no. When I stopped showing love by giving and accepting dangerous foods I had to step up the alternative methods of showing love to those who only understood food as love. This meant more hugs, more looking into peoples eyes and lots more smiles. And it is baby steps. People do not accept and change overnight unless they have a spiritual moment. We cannot expect that of everyone, as much as we might think they need it. LOL


Vickie said...

I have a link to this post and the one before it in my post for tomorrow. The post is actually on Chai Tea, you will see the connection as soon as you read it.