|Shopping is not really my bag|
You hear on the news about gastric bypass patients who become alcoholics or compulsive shoppers. We all know people who gained weight after they quit smoking. I know several recovered alcoholics who turned to food (often to sweet foods) and became food addicts, even as they worked through their twelve-step program for alcohol addiction. When I started keeping the pounds off in 2003 all I wanted to do was lose weight in a healthy way and keep the pounds off. In 2005 I began to see that when I wasn't overeating, I was over spending and over reacting. In 2006, when I accepted a program that could help me, I became aware that I need to watch for signs of transferring my addictive nature to another substance or behavior.
|Not allowed in my house yum, yum|
I was never much of a drinker but I tested alcohol and found that it released my inhibitions. When I drink I want to eat. So I gave up any hard liquor. I gave up liquors because I only wanted them for the sugar. I occasionally have a glass of wine and twice a year I have a beer. (Seriously, it is just twice a year: Mother's Day and Fourth of July).
I was never a drug user or abuser but during the past five years I have had several instances where I needed a narcotic pain medication and each time I found I either wanted more meds or more food. This caused me to find alternative pain therapies (exercise, hot/cold treatments, aroma therapy, self hypnosis, meditation) and I no longer hold a prescription for a pain reliever - just to be on the safe side. I would rather deal with a small pain instead of a bigger ass.
|Not my prescription|
I have been guilty of spending too much money occasionally, especially at the holidays but I have not spent without thought of the consequences and I have become financially responsible, even though I am not yet what I would call financially sound. I thought that my only transference issues were behavioral: doing too much, taking on too much, maybe whining too much - but I did not think I picked up any substances.
Then one month ago today, on October 19th, I stopped using artificial sweeteners cold turkey. Three small exceptions took place in those three weeks. But in this fourth week I found myself picking it up more and more and also found myself craving sugar products again. WTF? Where did that come from. Why was I in craving mode while having the artificial sweeteners when I was not craving any sweetener or sugar when I was not having any at all??
Hi Jane! I have this exact same issue. I'm doing well off the sweeteners for as long half a year, and then something happens abruptly--which would be my stressful work right now--and I'm drinking soda again. It's so bad for my teeth."
Eureka! I think gold has been struck! I cannot say why what this equals in Marion's life or in anyone else's life but my own, but I know what this comment mirrors in my life.
"SOMETHING HAPPENS ABRUPTLY -WHICH WOULD BE MY STRESSFUL WORK RIGHT NOW--"
|No cheese for her either!|
This is something I can understand. I am seeking and using the sensation of sweet (real or otherwise) to cope with the stress in my life at this moment; to not have to deal with something that is troubling me; to avoid feeling or accepting something I do not want to look at. It is the same as using quantities of butter or cheese or chocolate or ice cream or pizza to numb out. I am seeking the sweet taste to not have to face something stressful in my life without a buffer.
This knowledge is only one small part of the equation. Now I have to put down the crutch and feel my way through the feelings and thoughts the sweet sensations were diligently trying to mask. In your efforts at keeping the pounds off, are you watching for or experiencing any transference of substances or behaviors?