Wednesday, December 28, 2011

No Resolutions Here

I do not make New Years Resolutions. I did. I made them every year. Year after year, I resolved that THIS was the year I would stop BLANK -  Other people's lists might be to stop smoking, stop smoking pot, stop sleeping around, stop stop allowing aliens to take over their bodies. . . . Mine were always things like stop overeating, stop eating junk food, stop eating fast food, Stop eating a half gallon of ice cream at a time, stop gaining weight, stop eating after dinner, stop ordering take out every other day, stop procrastinating about losing weight. . . . . Mostly, I either gained or stayed the same despite those yearly resolutions. 

Let's look at the root word of resolution:

re·solve   /riˈzälv/
Verb: Settle or find a solution to (a problem, dispute, or contentious matter).
Noun: Firm determination to do something.

Synonyms:
verb. decide - settle - solve - determine - dissolve
noun. resolution - decision - determination - purpose


In the movie 1776, the congressmen "resolve." That is how they introduce their proposals to the congress for discussion and vote and very little work of value ever gets done. This isn't a political blog so let's just say, in a briefly touching on that august body, that congress 235 years later, still 'resolves' and  consequentially is blogged down in resolutions with very little actually getting done.

Of course the real root word for resolution is not resolve. It is SOLVE.

solve    /sälv/
Verb: Find an answer to, explanation for, or means of effectively dealing with (a problem or mystery).


Going with this definition, the purpose is to solve the issue. That is the goal. Synonyms of 'goal' are aim, purpose, target, object, objective, end, mark.

I like goals. It is kind of funny that the company I started fifteen years ago (and still run), GiftsofaLifetime.com forms the acronym GOAL. I think goals are more positive sounding than resolutions and I belief they are more focused on the solution and less on the problem. For instance, at 385 pounds, I already knew I needed to lose weight. I needed a goal for that year. My goal was to get under 300 pounds. I missed that goal by a few pounds but I did lose a significant amount of weight that year and I believe it was because I had a goal: a reasonable number to aim for and a plan to get there. 

I was too busy in 2012. I got caught up in too many projects, service activities and activities that were supposed to help me reach my goals but instead helped me to spin my wheels because they divided my focus from the steps I was already taking. This year I am keeping it simple.

My goals for 2012
  • To finish the re-write of my book, which will be published in 2012. The goal is to have it finished by March. Setting priorities and working with my book coach I believe I can reach this goal and then set a new one for the next phase.
  • To relinquish a service position. Right now I have three offices in my home and one - the easiest one with the least demands, has tipped the balance enough to keep me too busy to focus on the things that are most worthwhile to me. It is time for me to give up that position in exchange for the peace of mind it will bring to the rest of my life. It is not an easy thing to do. I made a commitment to continue through this year, so the change will not happen until later in the year, but I will be rotating out of that position and not taking another for the time being. Just knowing I have a final date for that position is a great part in my peace of mind. 
  • To lose the final pounds. I am 168 pounds and five months ago I determined that 148 would be my last stop on the scale because any extra pounds still on my body after 148 is healthy body or redundant skin. Twenty pounds and a whole year to do it. On December 1st I posted my goal of losing 12 pounds during the first six months of 2012.  It is a reasonable amount, an achievable goal. It is not going to hound me or hurt me or in any way obsess me. It is what it is. 
Three goals. They are my goals, they are exciting to me and they are achievable. None of them are going to change the earth. I am not dreading working on these goals. I am not worried they will become too much to bear. I am looking forward to a great new year, keeping the pounds off and learning to keep things simple one day of 2012 at a time. 

Is there one goal you can start working on today?

Jane~








7 comments:

Maren said...

I think you have three good goals there Jane :) Good luck in 2012!

downsizers said...

I have often wondered how to allow for the hanging skin. I know a gal who had the extra skin on her abdomen removed and she was 10 lbs. lighter just from that. Everyone cannot afford to have that removed and it's on our underarms, thighs, and the abdomen as well. Some insurance will cover it I think.

fatgirlwearingthin said...

I was just listening today on Chicago radio that setting too many resolutions actually backfires because too many are too stimulating. Having one or two to focus on increases the chance of success tremendously. You've certainly got the right idea. Good luck :)

E. Jane said...

Happy New Year, Jane! Looking forward to your posts in 2012!

Steph said...

I like this distinction between kinda mushy resolutions and firm, measurable goals.

Good luck with these! I look forward to following your success.

Sheri - The Motivational Girl said...

I do not make resolutions either! They are setups for failure.

I love your goals and I hope you finish that book so I can get a copy. :)

Flo said...

I read an interesting blog post today regarding goals vs. resolutions. Since I will never be finished with my weight loss/maintenance efforts, I think I will refer to them as a resolution.

http://www.happiness-project.com/happiness_project/2008/04/happiness-shoul.html