Saturday, January 21, 2012


What do you think? 

Part One:
Last night we had Chinese food. I asked my husband to bring home brown rice, snow peas with beef and cashew chicken for the three of us to share. I normally do not get cashew chicken because sometimes cashews are a 'gateway drug' for me - I want more. The place was a madhouse and traffic was nuts and he got home a little after 7:30 PM. The restaurant had forgotten to put the cashew chicken in the bag. I immediately thought "okay, I am not meant to eat cashew chicken tonight. There is still enough food for everyone because Larry got an egg roll for him and our daughter. 

Then we checked the receipt. While everything else on it was written in Chinese, the words cashew chicken were written plain as day in English. I tried to call the restaurant three times to arrange a credit but it seems that number is incorrect. That annoyed me. I like to get what I paid for. So, we got in the car and returned for the cashew chicken. Now I am thinking "Why is the $$ for this one item annoying me? - but that is a problem for me to talk about with my mentor. The restaurant realized they had made the mistake after Larry originally left but did not have a number to call us. As soon as we walked in they were ready for with a take out container of cashew chicken. Now, I am back to looking forward to having it.

Part Two:
We go back home and while I am eating broccoli in garlic sauce, our daughter makes up her plate, including a serving of the cashew chicken. When I get to the container to take a portion, I notice that there are no cashews left. It seems all the cashews were on the top portion of the container only. This meant chicken and veggies for me and no cashews last night. 

I was NOT supposed to have cashews yesterday. I got the message in part one but chose to ignore it when I was diverted by the money issue. I really got (accepted) the message in part two.

In keeping the pounds off I sometimes often need to be tapped on the head over and over again twice before I get a message. Luckily those taps are not administered with a two by four. 



Anonymous said...

Hey Jane,

Wow, I sure love your stories!!

Glad you went back to get your cashew chicken OR to get the $$ you paid for it.

I see the message that "life" was trying to send you. Were you upset by it all, or did you think your thoughts peacefully?

Right now, when confronted with these subtle messages, I just get ticked, "I am going to go get that cashew chicken, because I WANT IT!" is what I'd be experiencing. That's probably because I am STILL in my binge/overeating disease....

Which takes me to remembering the personal message of your blog. "What did you do to today to keep the pounds off?"

That living 'in' the disease is the bad part. When we aren't 'in' the disease, times can be tough, but SOOO much easier to deal with the bumps (cashews, etc) rationally, and NOT be so upset that we didn't get (whatever we were craving...) when "life" steps in. I NEED to think of your message EVERY time I want to eat foods I KNOW will lead to a binge. :O)

Oh my, I hope that made some kind of sense!! Yes, I think I have "carb brain". (which is true, I cannot think straight sometimes when too many carbs are coursing through my system!)

Take care, Heather ~~~~~~

E. Jane said...

I could certainy see myself in your "cashew chicken situation." Sometimes those messages have to hit us on the head (albeit gently) before we understand. Everyday isi a learning experience. Good for you--no cashews. Who knows what those messages may have saved you from. I always think they save me from myself!

Anonymous said...

Actually you got hit over the head 3 times. The first being that the traffic was nuts. : )

Crabby McSlacker said...

Great lesson there! I'm finding more and more often in life that things that seem frustrating often have unforseen positive outcomes. Sounds like the cashew situation may have ended badly if you hadn't been thwarted. And good for you for not going out again to buy cashews for the chicken!

Maren said...

Mmmm.. cashew chicken. :) :) I guess sometimes we're just not supposed to have it. :)

Fatoutofskinny said...

Yes, some things are meant to be!

Heidi Hoffman said...

Great story! First time visitor to your blog... I'll be back, don't worry. ;)

Diane Fit to the Finish said...

Wonderful story - you are right. Sometimes we just don't get it the first, second, or twentieth time!

Jane Cartelli said...

Heather - I think if we keep aware and keep sharing it with others and get outside own heads we can eventually get it and get well. Please, keep sharing.

E. Jane - I didn't even miss the cashews once they were not there. It was probably a better dish without them, too.

Munchie - Let's leave math out of this. lol

Crabby - you know what is the REAL progress: I did not go out the next day and buy a bag of cashews.

Heidi - Welcome and come back again soon!

Diane - but if we stop listening we will never get it, right? So I am listening all the time - even though I do not always hear.