Thursday, February 16, 2012

The Power of the Affirmation


The practice of engaging in affirmations allows us to begin replacing some of our stale, worn out, negative mind chatter with more positive ideas and concepts.  
~ Shakti Gawain
Some people think little sayings are just cheesy and hokey and hold no value to others. They whine when people say things like: 
  • One day at a Time
  • Let it go
  • Don't sweat the small stuff
  • Don't burn your bridges
  • Let a smile be your umbrella
  • Easy does it
and my favorite:
  • Together, we get better

Seriously, affirmations bothered me for awhile, too. I hated hearing 'one day at a time' when I wanted what I wanted and I wanted it NOW. I bashed you over the head with a burning bridge if you whispered that little ditty to me when I was in the middle of torching someone over a resentment I let seethe for too long.

Then I started seeing these affirmations in a different light. They started working their effect. When I let stuff go it didn't haunt me. When I had a smiling attitude all kinds of crap failed to land on me or if it did, the crap didn't stick. When I paused and took things easy instead of insisting that it was my way or the highway, life's road really was smoother to travel.

One day at a time isn't something to placate me or hypnotize me past the next craving. It really is a mantra to keep me focused on what is before me. This makes sense since the scenes in my mind for next week may never be. But it I do not practice something better than trying to control the world, negatives playing in my head will be way I picture them today, especially if I use food to keep me going. The positive replaces the negative with each repeated phrase. No longer do I need to feel stupid, worthless, unloved, careless, useless or any of the negative phrases used in my mind or by others. 

Some people get real obnoxious when they hear others repeat the positive affirmations when their own tapes are stuck in negative playback. Some people are going to get obnoxious no matter what. I cannot control what they say or what they think. If they think that others should not say it because it does not make sense to them, that is their opinion and their problem. Other people do not have to like or agree with me and I do not have to agree with them.

It is not my lot in life to use my words to make them happy. I am keeping the pounds off, one day at a time, so let it go. Don't sweat the small stuff as you keep those bridges save from burning behind you, smile and take things easy - actually, while WE smile and take things easy, because together we DO get better. 

Jane~






4 comments:

Vickie said...

I would add being able to smile at our mistakes and laugh at ourselves to your collection of thoughts. Very good post.

Sharon said...

I support the use of affirmations. They can lift your spirits when you beat yourself up for failing.

Munchberry said...

Gosh isn't it something that someone might get pissed when someone is trying to be loving or kind to them?

I know there are times I just want to crab - but I say so. Then I am over it. Eventually I want someone coming around with their hokeism. I have plenty.

Don't look for your image in a cracked mirror.

Jane Cartelli said...

Vickie - I love having the ability to laugh at my mistakes without bitterness. What a blessing.

Sharon - amen!

Munchie - Hokeisms are fun for me now. I even have plaques in my house. I use to hide such things from 'others- like normal people" . I am much healthier today.