Thursday, April 5, 2012

Chivalry is Alive and Well

So this morning I got up and dyed my hair (root time) and decided to get a hair cut and pedicure. To be equally prepared for both activities I wanted to wear something on my body without a collar and something on my feet with my toes exposed. I donned an attractive, tropical, purple, white and gold summer dress with a fitted high waist (perfect, as I have a high waist) and plunging neckline that shows off 'the girls' (what is left of them). I wore low heeled sandals. I thought I looked good and felt good, too.  

Not my 'girls', but similar view
I went out for coffee with a friend. As I was walking through the coffee shop toward the door, a man (late 40's) and his young daughter (or granddaughter) were sitting at the table nearest the door. He was watching me walk toward the door. Before I could get to it he jumped up and held the door open for me. There was no one behind me, he was not leaving. We do not know each other. The table and his seat were not so close to the door that his chivalrousness would have been expected by anyone below the rank of Queen (or in this country reality TV star). 


  1. I look too old to open a door carrying a small coffee 
  2. My 'girls' were worth the extra effort (hardly)
  3. He saw a woman coming to a door and made a gallant gesture because it is his nature

I am sure the answer is (3) but it made me feel good to think that a stranger would jump out of his chair to open a door for little ol' me on a day when I happen to feel that I look really good. I should take care to look and feel good more often. 

Have you noticed any differences in the way strangers treat you when you are feeling good about you? 



Fatoutofskinny said...

4. He saw a hot sexy woman that he wanted to impress!!!
You left this one off Jane!

E. Jane said...

Definitely not too old...You were lookin' good!

bbubblyb said...

I was smiling big for you :) It's always nice when someone else notices your efforts. Yep, others can definitely tell when you are feeling good about yourself. If the "girls" did look like those lol I'm sure he would be running to hold the door open, men do like boobs lol.

Anonymous said...

Hooray! What a way to start the day! You are going to need to get some more girl revealing tops so you can enjoy a good strut!

Of COURSE I see a diff in the way men treat me. Sometimes it disturbs me... sometimes it makes me feel powerful.

God I love chivalry. Bring on the kind, gentle and considerate man (or woman).

sixty-five said...

I could go on and on about this. It doesn't seem right or fair, but how we look has everything to do with how we are treated. Now that I am 60-70 lbs lighter than a year ago (do any of us think to accurately record an all-time-high weight?) I am much more aware of how I dress, behave, act...and the world is responding in kind.

KCLAnderson (Karen) said...

I definitely notice a fact, I've done experiments where I walk around with my head held high, a smile in my eyes, feeling good about me, and the world responds accordingly. Then the next day I purposely walk around with my head down, feeling "meh" and the world responds accordingly...I've done this more that once, and I've done it at different weights, and I've done it wearing the same clothes.

And by the way, the cartoon you mentioned in your previous post is one of my faves :-)

Cenandra said...

Woohoo!!!! I would say he was impressed with a beautiful woman who takes care of herself and that was a way he could say "keep up the great work".