I notice when blogs become inactive without notice of an expected change from the blogger. When a blogger goes quiet and stays that way they could be hiding from honesty while having an unhealthy relationship with raw cookie dough. Or perhaps they have just reached a place where sharing their experience with others is no longer of value to them.
I can't do this alone. Keeping the pounds off is herculean and does not happen in isolation. Not for me. I know this today. I have yet to find anyone who succeeds alone. I hope I never think I can do it alone. Everyone who has kept their weight off long term has maintained support on various fronts (recovery friends, weekly meetings, paid professionals, fellow bloggers) and the true survivors never consider themselves an Island of One. If I ever reach a place where I am losing the physical, emotional and spiritual attitude needed to maintain this victory over the battle of obesity I hope to God I do not go quietly into the candy store, never to be seen again. I am able to communicate to the people around me that I need help and scream in shouty capital letters to those of you reading my blog that I do need your support, too.
I have no intention of discontinuing Keeping the Pounds Off. If I ever believe sharing my experience with others no longer helps me in my fight, I promise not to go away without sharing that decision and engaging in discussion. People have taken time to get to know my story and support me here. It would be unfair to go off without a word. I am sad when other people go away without that consideration for others.
Yet, I also understand that a decent, considerate person can be in so much pain, they are unable to give voice (blog or not) to their desperate need for help. Sometimes those bloggers who disappear are people in so much pain they have been rendered unable to care.
Don't disappear into the silence.
* Shouty capital letters is a term used in E.L. James Fifty Shades series. I stole it.