I was sitting minding my own business one day this summer, enjoying a shady seat in an area with a bench. A duck (not obese -yet) came over to me and I shooed it away. I had no food to give it and it was not getting my apple. After I ate the apple the duck returned to request a handout. I had nothing and proceeded to ignore its cute little duck face. That is, until the duck took my lack of effort to fill her need for sustenance as a personal insult. Watch what she does. Yes, this is my leg, my voice and my video. It lasts less than 1 minute.
Resentment is a nasty behavior. She could not change the outcome - I had nothing for her, but she kept nibbling away at me with a clear expectation that something would change.
The situation continues in this video, also under a minute long.
When my food demands (not needs) cause that nasty resentful behavior to rear its ugly head I know I am in trouble. I am bitchy and I want SOMETHING. If I get resentful it is because I have an expectation that is not met. When that comes to food it can be a killer. I have to let go of resentment where food is concerned and keep remembering that (for me) food is a need. When I 'want' I usually setting myself up to want even more. When I remember that food is a need, my food choices are healthy and sane. When I let my food wants trump my food needs I am a resentful duck.
Resentment in any form leads me down the wrong path with other feelings and emotions. Resentment is the poison I take in hopes that someone else will suffer when in reality, it is only killing me.
Remember that resentment is poison to your efforts. You have to find a way to let it go.
Do you recognize the behavior of this duck? Have you ever resented someone, someplace, something because you were not getting your food demands met? How did that work for you?