Tuesday, September 9, 2014

Lauren's defense of Alec Baldwin lead to growth in her Mommy

My Lauren wrote an interesting article about Alec Baldwin. This part has stuck with me for a long time:
Alec Baldwin has long been highlighted for his extreme anger issues which, while they may seem like great fodder - entertaining, at the least, point to a deeper problem. Not that every single instance is a genuine example of rationality, but those with anxiety disorders (i.e. OCD, which Baldwin suffers from) aren't always rational. People like to frame his apparent self-importance right next to each and every one of his outbursts as if one explains the other. But people also like to forget that it requires a decent amount of bravery and, yes, self-importance, to survive in the public spotlight, and I don't think it occurs to anyone that if their own lives were constantly in the papers, on the news, etc. that they might find that they have more in common with the man than they would have thought. Because maybe, just maybe, he's just as scared and depressed on a regular basis as the rest of us are. I've always had a good deal of respect for him, even with his extreme responses, the voicemail debacle, the wall-punching debacle...because, really, he's a lot like me. And, at the end of the day, I'd like to think that I'm one of the good guys, too.

The article was written many months or even a year ago. Enough time has passed for me to be aware of my attitude change and measure the difference. I like how I have grown. I am glad there has been growth. I do not need to curse myself for when I was stagnate.

How easy it is to forget to offer compassion, acceptance and respect when we are too busy trying to climb to 'safety' by feeling superior and judge someone from our own experience while dismissing their experience - and without accepting that we, may be more like that person than we believe. When I am aware of this I try to bring myself back to walking in the footsteps of the other person. I don't often succeed. Often I fall short. But awareness of my thoughts is the first step in changing them for the better.


1 comment:

Vickie said...

I have people in my life who have really only ever seen my anxiety, and have not ever really gotten to know me. These are people or circumstances that set off my anxiety, badly, because of how THEY are. But they do not see themselves. They only see my anxiety. They have no idea I am reacting to them.